One Bite at a Time!

 

Izzy and her elephantHappy New Year everyone! We had a whirlwind holiday around here. We were very blessed to have the family together and I just enjoyed being with everyone, playing games, shopping, cooking, playing with my fur babies and even a little crafting. What I didn’t do? I didn’t take the time I usually do to clean out, re-organize and set new goals. I did a new day planner, mapping out all our events, but I haven’t taken a look at what I choose to bring into my life this year! And honestly, when I came back to work last Tuesday, I started to panic a bit about it. I felt instantly behind!  When I was catching up on blogs I follow, it seemed everyone else had taken the time to clean out, reorganize and write down their goals. Of course, just like with social media, only the best foot comes forward to read about and see! (I certainly had to take a breath and remind myself of that though!)

I think the pressure to get everything done for the holidays (that I put on myself mind you!) has lingered on into this new year. I’m realizing now that I need to just stop the crazy! There is no time limit on cleaning out, organizing and setting my goals. These things should be ongoing, not just something done the first week of January.

Boom!

And that, my friends, is my epiphany for 2018! I tend to live my life in projects – everything starting with an idea, moving through a plan and then being completed. But, you know? I’m not sure everything is that cut and dry.

It’s a delicate balance though. You must take action and do the work in order to move forward toward your goals. And, you must keep moving forward. Many, many things you end up doing each day don’t propel you forward. The trick, I think, is to establish that balance of things you do for others and things you do for yourself. Both are vitally important to life. But too much for others (i.e. family, friends, work, household) and not enough for you (setting your goals, making your strategic plan, doing what you love, realizing your divine destiny) will derail your dreams.

So, if I need to do baby steps of cleaning out, organizing and goal setting in order to take the pressure off, but still keep moving forward? It’s OK! After all, how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!  Although, I wouldn’t eat an elephant.  They are much too cute!  But, you get the analogy I’m sure!

Contemplating Happiness

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I’ve been wondering a lot lately about what separates happy people from unhappy people. And, I don’t think it’s the bad things happening to unhappy people that makes them unhappy. Likewise, I don’t think it’s the good things happening to happy people that makes them happy.

And, maybe you know this already – I probably did – but I am really taking time to think about it lately. Unhappy people seem to constantly look for things to support their unhappiness. And let me tell you; there is an unlimited amount of things you can look back on and say this should not have happened if you want to continue to be unhappy. It’s all in how you choose to see your life experiences. Forgive your past and save your life. So true!  Because when you believe that everything happens for you instead of to you, in order to bring you to a higher understanding of your purpose in life, then you ultimately can’t be unhappy with anything that has happened!

Now, some things are more difficult to deal with than others for sure. The loss of a child, for instance, is very hard to come to terms with. Someone who we have known since she was a little girl recently lost her 2 ½ year-old son when he drowned in their pool. Horrific for sure.   Unimaginable. And, after a time of grief has passed, if she is a happy person she will find a way – by faith – to be happy again. She can use her experience to contribute to the universal energy in a positive way, or she can choose to be unhappy for the rest of her life. She can choose.

I used to think there was something wrong with me that I could muster up happiness even in what should’ve been my darkest times. But you know? I love being happy! I seek out ways to be happy. And, the older I get the more I realize I can’t change people who are unhappy – I can’t make them happy no matter how much I want that for them!  I then choose to be around them if I feel I won’t be letting go of my own happiness in order to do it. And, I don’t feel guilty about that choice – well most of the time I don’t! I am human and sometimes I have to talk with myself a bit! If something keeps coming to my mind and I’m feeling guilty because I’m not doing what is normally socially acceptable – what I quote “should” be doing. I stop and take a look at how doing this thing would affect my happiness. Now, I haven’t always done this! This has come with age and experience. I look at the situation and analyze it for not if I “should” do something, but if it’s going to make me feel happy to do it.  If it’s not going to make me feel happy, then I make the choice to say “enough now” and go on with my life.

Because at the end, if you were asked, “Did you love your life?” You have to be able to answer “Yes!” not “Yes, but . . . ” or “No, because . . . ” The only thing that works for me is Yes! I love my life!

 

 

 

 

Going Back to School

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I was at Target the other day, and they were busily preparing their shelves for “Back to School.”  Wow, that sure seemed to come around quickly, and I don’t even have kids going back to school!  They are all done with that – well they think they are anyway.

You know, even after all these years, I kind of get excited about “Back to School” time. I often wish I were part of the group doing that. A history class here and there. A creative writing class, maybe. Heck, what about an all-new major! That would be really fun!

I’ve done some online classes, even YouTube and iTunes U. I really feel like these take more discipline than the brick and mortar variety even. Lately, I’ve found myself inundated with work and so have been neglecting my education. That’s not good. That ol’ “life gets in the way” thing is just lack of motivation to get out of a rut. We have the power to choose! Don’t forget that!

Because education is what helps us grow! If we aren’t reading books and articles, going to classes or listening to/watching classes electronically, we aren’t learning!

So here’s what I’m going to do this week. I am going to commit myself to an all-new challenge, and that is to go back to school. And, by that I mean that each week, I complete some sort of class. Some weeks it could all be online. Some weeks it could be a book about something new to me – a study in something. Some weeks it could be a live seminar for a couple of days. The point is, each week I take the necessary steps to BE EDUCATED! Will you join me?

And you know, back to school means we get to go to Target or Staples or somewhere like that to get school supplies! Yay!!!! New notebooks, pens, whatever you need to support and excite you in this educational endeavor! It’s the first action step! Then, do your research for what you want to take classes in. What have you always wanted to learn about? Make your dream list in the front of your new notebook with your new pens!

This is really going to be fun – and it makes it even more fun when I have fellow students who are FOR ME in this challenge! I’ll keep you posted on what I’m learning!